Want to know if your relationship is about to hit the skids?
Looking for tell-tale signs that your love will last through next week?
Well, look no further. Below you'll find the “Unlucky 13” -13 warning signs you're about to get dumped.
We surveyed a variety of experts to find the most common warning signs a person is about to get dumped –including psychologists, body language experts, graphologists, private investigators and a divorce attorney. And here's what we found:
1. Body Language
Where the body points, the heart follows. According to many body language experts, you should, “look at your sweetie's body when you are out with other people; if the body is shifted toward you, great, no problems there! If they're shifted away from you or toward someone else, your partner may be looking for the nearest escape hatch.
2. You know how a telemarketer feels.
Does your squeeze seem anxious to end phone conversations? A person who knows they’re going to end the relationship with you, but hasn't done so yet will be itching to get off the phone with you. If they are talking to you, but not adding anything to the conversation its sign they are heading towards the finish line. They’re probably just pacing themselves while trying to figure out how to break it off without hurt feelings. As if that was a possibility.
3. Your squeeze is no longer interested in sex, or worse, they have a new bag of tricks.
A dramatic change in sexual behavior can mean two things:
a) Your squeeze wants to avoid any situation where they may have to express emotion or attachment to you, or
b) They are doin’ the nasty with someone else!
4. The future is not foretold.
I’m not talking about the way some dance around discussing relationships in general. I’m talking about a person who would rather have their eye teeth pulled than to have one of those “we have to talk” talks. When plans for three days from now or next week seems like too much of a commitment, it could be because that person is hoping to find the miracle answer to breaking up lightly before that time.
5. They say, “I need some space” or “I think we should see other people.”
People will usually do what they can to avoid hurting someone, so they resort to the same old cliché’s of breaking up. By telling you they want to see other people, they’re technically not breaking up with you but they have given them self a way out when the opportunity arises. And just as soon as there is a little distance in between that person will make a run for it.
6. Left Lying
I learned in High School Psychology that a person who looks up or to their left when they speak to you is most likely not being honest. The look left is an indication we're using the creative side of the brain and a good indicator they’re making up a doozy of a tale just for your benefit.
7. The pat on the back.
A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uneasy. According to body language experts the “hand pat” on the back indicates someone is uncomfortable with what they're doing. The bigger the pat, the more uncomfortable they are.
Another important sign to consider is the amount of contact during a hug. Full frontal contact is good. The one-shoulder hug; or pulling away in other areas could be a sign the person is “distancing” in the relationship. If it's a new relationship, the other person may not be quite ready for that level of physical contact. If it's an established relationship, it could be a sign the person is inching away, or getting ready to break off the relationship.
8. Mirror mirror on the wall.
People mirror each other's body language when they are in love with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. If you're noticing the two of you are out of sync, you probably are.
That's not all. According to body language experts, a person who is about to dump you will display a lack of open “windows” towards you. “Windows” being his heart, eyes, neck and palms. If your man turns his heart (the center of his chest) away from you as you are talking to each other, it's a big sign he's not interested.
9. You see the writing on the wall.
According to handwriting experts, a person who is distancing themselves in a relationship will show clues in their handwriting. When writing the word “love” she may begin to drop down the letter “e.” Another sign to watch for is if your partner diminishes the size of your name (sign of your importance to her.)
10. Can you believe your fighting over THAT?
If your partner is picking silly fights, or there's an unexplained increase in emotional distance, you’re probably not going to like what’s coming your way. A person who picks downright silly arguments is trying their darndest to get you do to the breaking up. Thus making them feel the better person for having not been the heartbreaker.
11. Timing is everything.
Timing is one of the most visible non verbal communications a person has. If your partner keeps you waiting, it's probably a pretty good sign their interest in you is drifting and tardiness is one of the most prominent signs of disrespect.
This theory holds true for dates too. If your partner starts making date plans with you at the very last minute, it's likely they’ve lost interest and is showing you that you’re not forefront in their thoughts. They aren’t even thinking about a date with you until they realize something better hasn’t come along in the meantime. You then become Back-Up Girl or Back-Up Boy! About as close as you’ll get to being a superhero to that person!
12. Pagers, cell phones and email O My
Most every check a mate type site I’ve read tells that a pager or cell phone purchase is a sign of impending heartbreak. It could be a sign of new and forming relationships as well. Sure, it could be for work, but think about their job. Would a pager or cell phone make sense in their job? Does your partner check their email more often these days? Hmmm makes you wonder huh? Most generally, it’s time to real that heart in off your sleeve and just find the nearest exit before they do.
13. He used to be a three-blue-shirts-and-four-pair-of-Chinos kind of guy, and suddenly he's obsessed with Armani.
According to Attorney Mel Frumkes, a person who is about to leave (or is cheating) will take greater care with his appearance – updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working out and even changing cologne. If your sweetie looks like he just finished taping an episode of “A Makeover Story” – Those Chinos might not be the only dud he's looking to lose.
Want to know when you're most likely to get the axe? Most experts agree it's somewhere in the neighborhood of the first 3-5 months. So, stock up on tissues and Ben & Jerry's if you're heading into the danger zone.
Only time (and his shoes) will tell.
